[Haya_Khan]

Smart Strategies

Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels? It's not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours-- but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating these happy-couple strategies into your love life.

1. Fall in love all over again. Make a conscious decision to be in love. The more you act as if you are in love, the more you will feel like you are.

2. Remember the good times. Treat your partner like you did at the beginning of your relationship. Make a list of all the things you used to enjoy doing together and add any new fantasies to the list. Plan for them and make them happen.

3. Help your partner feel more loved and secure in your love so that he or she can open up to you and express feelings and ideas without fear of being attacked or judged. Compliment, praise, give a hug. Small gestures make the grandest statements.

4. Don't make unilateral decisions. You're a team in many ways, so act like one. Check in and make decisions together about things large and small. Be willing to compromise.

5. Be present. Train your mind to stay in the moment -- not at work, thinking about the new color you want to paint your kitchen, or how it's time to take the dog to the vet.

6. Pay attention to your physical appearance. Take the time to stay in shape and look good for each other. It does matter.

7. Boost your compatibility. Couples in crisis focus on all the ways they are different, whereas those who are in love zero in on their similarities and think their differences are cute. Build compatibility by taking turns planning activities to do together. If you don't like your partner's choice, don't complain; it's your turn next.

8. Do not place blame. Replace blame and criticism with solutions and tenderness. Problem-solve together -- sit close, hold hands, touch each other's face or hair. Be playful. When was the last time you laughed together? Rent a comedy movie to tickle your funny bone.

9. Fact-find -- don't mind-read. You may think you know but you can't assume. You may believe he should know, but that's not fair, either. Always clear up misinterpretations and misunderstandings to make sure they don't throw you both off course.

10. Fight fair -- and by appointment only. Schedule a limited time to discuss a problem and confine your comments to that issue only. It's easier to relax and feel free to enjoy each other when you know you won't be ambushed by a litany of complaints and criticisms.

11. Prepare for checkouts. Even in the closest marriage, everyone needs time alone. Don't take it personally and don't make each other feel guilty if you need to spiritually and emotionally regroup. Just be sure to tell each other when you are checking out (max, one day) -- and when you're checking back in.

[OnENOnLy_Aisha]

Wowww..really Nice.. AweSOme Info..:)

[Haya_Khan]

Originally posted by OnENOnLy_Aisha
Wowww..really Nice.. AweSOme Info..:)

Thanks Aisha

[MuslimBlood!]

Originally posted by Haya_Khan
Smart Strategies

Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels? It's not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours-- but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating these happy-couple strategies into your love life.

1. Fall in love all over again. Make a conscious decision to be in love. The more you act as if you are in love, the more you will feel like you are.

2. Remember the good times. Treat your partner like you did at the beginning of your relationship. Make a list of all the things you used to enjoy doing together and add any new fantasies to the list. Plan for them and make them happen.

3. Help your partner feel more loved and secure in your love so that he or she can open up to you and express feelings and ideas without fear of being attacked or judged. Compliment, praise, give a hug. Small gestures make the grandest statements.

4. Don't make unilateral decisions. You're a team in many ways, so act like one. Check in and make decisions together about things large and small. Be willing to compromise.

5. Be present. Train your mind to stay in the moment -- not at work, thinking about the new color you want to paint your kitchen, or how it's time to take the dog to the vet.

6. Pay attention to your physical appearance. Take the time to stay in shape and look good for each other. It does matter.

7. Boost your compatibility. Couples in crisis focus on all the ways they are different, whereas those who are in love zero in on their similarities and think their differences are cute. Build compatibility by taking turns planning activities to do together. If you don't like your partner's choice, don't complain; it's your turn next.

8. Do not place blame. Replace blame and criticism with solutions and tenderness. Problem-solve together -- sit close, hold hands, touch each other's face or hair. Be playful. When was the last time you laughed together? Rent a comedy movie to tickle your funny bone.

9. Fact-find -- don't mind-read. You may think you know but you can't assume. You may believe he should know, but that's not fair, either. Always clear up misinterpretations and misunderstandings to make sure they don't throw you both off course.

10. Fight fair -- and by appointment only. Schedule a limited time to discuss a problem and confine your comments to that issue only. It's easier to relax and feel free to enjoy each other when you know you won't be ambushed by a litany of complaints and criticisms.

11. Prepare for checkouts. Even in the closest marriage, everyone needs time alone. Don't take it personally and don't make each other feel guilty if you need to spiritually and emotionally regroup. Just be sure to tell each other when you are checking out (max, one day) -- and when you're checking back in.

BISMILLAHIR-RAHMANIR-RAHEEM.

ASSALAM-O-ALAIKUM WARAHMATULLAHI WABARAKATUH.

H0ping & praying that y0u'll be fine as I am by the grace 0f ALLAH ALMIGHTY.

I would like to reply this,but

let's pray that .................

I'll read it nicely!<INSHA ALLAH>

JAZAKUMULLAH!

[OnENOnLy_Aisha]

Originally posted by Haya_Khan


Thanks Aisha

Aww Ur MOst Welcome Siss:)

[sarah_1]

11. Prepare for checkouts. Even in the closest marriage, everyone needs time alone. Don't take it personally and don't make each other feel guilty if you need to spiritually and emotionally regroup. Just be sure to tell each other when you are checking out (max, one day) -- and when you're checking back in.

[Haya_Khan]

Originally posted by MuslimBlood!
BISMILLAHIR-RAHMANIR-RAHEEM.

ASSALAM-O-ALAIKUM WARAHMATULLAHI WABARAKATUH.

H0ping & praying that y0u'll be fine as I am by the grace 0f ALLAH ALMIGHTY.

I would like to reply this,but

let's pray that .................

I'll read it nicely!<INSHA ALLAH>

JAZAKUMULLAH!

Wa-Alaiqum-Salam,

Thanks for the pray... im fine Alhumdulillah.....

Though im little confuse by ur reply.... but thanks that u said u will read it nicely.......

[Haya_Khan]

Originally posted by sarah_1
11. Prepare for checkouts. Even in the closest marriage, everyone needs time alone. Don't take it personally and don't make each other feel guilty if you need to spiritually and emotionally regroup. Just be sure to tell each other when you are checking out (max, one day) -- and when you're checking back in.

Thanks Sarah.....

[scorpsshadow]

very nice n great post haya baje...

[Haya_Khan]

Originally posted by scorpsshadow
very nice n great post haya baje...

Thanks Omer

[MuslimBlood!]

Originally posted by Haya_Khan
Smart Strategies

Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels? It's not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours-- but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating these happy-couple strategies into your love life.

1. Fall in love all over again. Make a conscious decision to be in love. The more you act as if you are in love, the more you will feel like you are.

2. Remember the good times. Treat your partner like you did at the beginning of your relationship. Make a list of all the things you used to enjoy doing together and add any new fantasies to the list. Plan for them and make them happen.

3. Help your partner feel more loved and secure in your love so that he or she can open up to you and express feelings and ideas without fear of being attacked or judged. Compliment, praise, give a hug. Small gestures make the grandest statements.

4. Don't make unilateral decisions. You're a team in many ways, so act like one. Check in and make decisions together about things large and small. Be willing to compromise.

5. Be present. Train your mind to stay in the moment -- not at work, thinking about the new color you want to paint your kitchen, or how it's time to take the dog to the vet.

6. Pay attention to your physical appearance. Take the time to stay in shape and look good for each other. It does matter.

7. Boost your compatibility. Couples in crisis focus on all the ways they are different, whereas those who are in love zero in on their similarities and think their differences are cute. Build compatibility by taking turns planning activities to do together. If you don't like your partner's choice, don't complain; it's your turn next.

8. Do not place blame. Replace blame and criticism with solutions and tenderness. Problem-solve together -- sit close, hold hands, touch each other's face or hair. Be playful. When was the last time you laughed together? Rent a comedy movie to tickle your funny bone.

9. Fact-find -- don't mind-read. You may think you know but you can't assume. You may believe he should know, but that's not fair, either. Always clear up misinterpretations and misunderstandings to make sure they don't throw you both off course.

10. Fight fair -- and by appointment only. Schedule a limited time to discuss a problem and confine your comments to that issue only. It's easier to relax and feel free to enjoy each other when you know you won't be ambushed by a litany of complaints and criticisms.

11. Prepare for checkouts. Even in the closest marriage, everyone needs time alone. Don't take it personally and don't make each other feel guilty if you need to spiritually and emotionally regroup. Just be sure to tell each other when you are checking out (max, one day) -- and when you're checking back in.

BISMILLAH HIR RAHMANIR RAHEEM

"to love & to be loved is hard through these.................?"

A gift for all;

ALLAHUMAR ZUQNNEE HUBBAKA

WA HUBBA MAN YANFA'AUNI HUBBUHU 'INDAK'[this word starts

from Aain]

translation;

"ILAHEE! MUJH KO APNEE

MAHABBAT DAY AUR AUS KEE MAHABBAT DAY JISS KAY

SAATH MAHABBAT KARNA MAIRAY LIYE TERE DARBAR MEIN

KAR AMAD HOO"

[Haya_Khan]

Originally posted by MuslimBlood!

BISMILLAH HIR RAHMANIR RAHEEM

"to love & to be loved is hard through these.................?"

A gift for all;

ALLAHUMAR ZUQNNEE HUBBAKA

WA HUBBA MAN YANFA'AUNI HUBBUHU 'INDAK'[this word starts

from Aain]

translation;

"ILAHEE! MUJH KO APNEE

MAHABBAT DAY AUR AUS KEE MAHABBAT DAY JISS KAY

SAATH MAHABBAT KARNA MAIRAY LIYE TERE DARBAR MEIN

KAR AMAD HOO"

Ameen Sum Ameen

bohat zabardast MuslimBlood !.... Thanks

[salik]

Originally posted by Haya_Khan
Smart Strategies

Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels? It's not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours-- but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating these happy-couple strategies into your love life.

1. Fall in love all over again. Make a conscious decision to be in love. The more you act as if you are in love, the more you will feel like you are.

2. Remember the good times. Treat your partner like you did at the beginning of your relationship. Make a list of all the things you used to enjoy doing together and add any new fantasies to the list. Plan for them and make them happen.

3. Help your partner feel more loved and secure in your love so that he or she can open up to you and express feelings and ideas without fear of being attacked or judged. Compliment, praise, give a hug. Small gestures make the grandest statements.

4. Don't make unilateral decisions. You're a team in many ways, so act like one. Check in and make decisions together about things large and small. Be willing to compromise.

5. Be present. Train your mind to stay in the moment -- not at work, thinking about the new color you want to paint your kitchen, or how it's time to take the dog to the vet.

6. Pay attention to your physical appearance. Take the time to stay in shape and look good for each other. It does matter.

7. Boost your compatibility. Couples in crisis focus on all the ways they are different, whereas those who are in love zero in on their similarities and think their differences are cute. Build compatibility by taking turns planning activities to do together. If you don't like your partner's choice, don't complain; it's your turn next.

8. Do not place blame. Replace blame and criticism with solutions and tenderness. Problem-solve together -- sit close, hold hands, touch each other's face or hair. Be playful. When was the last time you laughed together? Rent a comedy movie to tickle your funny bone.

9. Fact-find -- don't mind-read. You may think you know but you can't assume. You may believe he should know, but that's not fair, either. Always clear up misinterpretations and misunderstandings to make sure they don't throw you both off course.

10. Fight fair -- and by appointment only. Schedule a limited time to discuss a problem and confine your comments to that issue only. It's easier to relax and feel free to enjoy each other when you know you won't be ambushed by a litany of complaints and criticisms.

11. Prepare for checkouts. Even in the closest marriage, everyone needs time alone. Don't take it personally and don't make each other feel guilty if you need to spiritually and emotionally regroup. Just be sure to tell each other when you are checking out (max, one day) -- and when you're checking back in.

simply superb haya

[salik]

Originally posted by OnENOnLy_Aisha
Wowww..really Nice.. AweSOme Info..:)

khaley suun kar Wowww... he karna aata hai tum ko... in batoon par amal bhe kiya karo

[Haya_Khan]

Originally posted by salik








simply superb haya

Thanks Salik

[MuslimBlood!]

Originally posted by Haya_Khan


Ameen Sum Ameen

bohat zabardast MuslimBlood !.... Thanks

ASSALAMO ALAIKUM WARAHMATULLAHI WABARAKATUH;

Of;course all which are from NABI PAAL Alaihis Salootu Wassalaam is as much supreme as we can't express in our words.

YA ALLAH HAMEE QUBOOL FARMA .Ameen Sum Ameen.

Khair say;waisay apne kitnay loogoon ko yeh Dua-e- Mubarakah batlaiye aur aapne kitne martabah parhee?

But you dot answer the question.........!

[Haya_Khan]

Originally posted by MuslimBlood!
ASSALAMO ALAIKUM WARAHMATULLAHI WABARAKATUH;

Of;course all which are from NABI PAAL Alaihis Salootu Wassalaam is as much supreme as we can't express in our words.

YA ALLAH HAMEE QUBOOL FARMA .Ameen Sum Ameen.

Khair say;waisay apne kitnay loogoon ko yeh Dua-e- Mubarakah batlaiye aur aapne kitne martabah parhee?

But you dot answer the question.........!

aur kisi ko to mein nay batai he nahi... khud he read ki the...
aab InshAllah sub ko bata doon gee.....

[MuslimBlood!]

ASSALAM-O-ALAIKUM WARAHMATULLAHI WABARAKATUH.


aur kisi ko to mein nay batai he nahi... khud he read ki the...
JAZAKUMULLAH aab InshAllah sub ko bata doon gee..... INSHA ALLAH TA'LAA!

[Princess_A]

Thanx 4 the information Haya ji!!!!!!!!!!!!!Superb!

[minal84]

zabardast haya