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24-06-2008, 04:29 AM
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| physical appearence..... does physical appearence matter to u ? i have usually heard women complain that men choose women who r slim and dont like who are fat/overweight. and that they dont care about appearence. However, all those women who agree with this i would like to ask u ... would u marry a man or even consider marrying a man who is 4 inches shorter than u ? in my opinion it does matter not much but it does ... main thing is are u attracted ... there has to be chemistry .... if u agree then why all the rant about how men go for looks. ps. this is jus to bring something to general awarness ... dont hate me ... wait on second thought do hate me im not bothered : )
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24-06-2008, 04:53 AM
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| You asked and u replied as well ... Physical appearance attracts u for the first time when u have nothing more than that about that person. But then other things come to ur way .... tht person's nature ... way to talk ... brain .... way to deal ... or it could be any single thing from physical appearance (like few love smile's of someone ... few love hairs and so) ... and money All depends what you're more concerned and focused to. If u r attracted towards a beautiful face while u love ppl on the basis of their say, mentality ... u found that beautiful person not matched up as per mentality, then, u won't stay to tht person. Approaching towards something is not important ... what counts how long one can stay with that ... how long one can go with that ... and this is what we call CHEMISTRY b/w 2. so a gal who may wish to have some handsome partner, may marry and live happy life with a man not meeting her Physical Appearance criteria but meeting the criterion on whts more important for her. Once we like someone for some reason, even if its a friend, then the person becomes beautiful to us. So yea ... THERE HAS TO BE CHEMISTRY :) then nothing matters and bother even. Plus of course its a general discussion so do't worry abt being taken otherwise.
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24-06-2008, 07:39 AM
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| I shall speak for myself and I will say that NO it does not. Beauty or the physical appearance is just like a bubble of water......today it is there and tomorrow it wont be there. But what stays with you for ever is the thinking, mind, attitude, and nature. Short and breif:)
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25-06-2008, 06:39 PM
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| I once heard somewhere which I totally agree with 'Its beauty/appearance which captures your attention, but personality which captures your heart' 
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25-06-2008, 09:19 PM
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how about giving them lot a chance ... and men arent the only ones who go for looks ... thats all i was trying to say
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29-06-2008, 05:46 AM
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| @ Diya & mezzedup .... the same thing I said as well ... ki its like u got attracted for tht reason (but not everyone or everytime) but the reason which hold u up there wud always be sumthing else if beauty is not really ur passion.
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29-06-2008, 01:44 PM
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| its not really about how ppl approach .. its just the fact ... that men and women make choices based on appearance .... and mostly only men are blamed ... i just wanted to bring to knowledge that women do it too anything that wud be against what i said wud be something like men do it more often ... or something like that ....
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01-07-2008, 09:50 PM
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| Well, I guess I dont need to go in da details since most of the ppl here seem to say what i agree to....=) We are humans and lets face it, none of us is immune from the immediate effect of a good appearance, it catches our eye... makes our mind curious to know dat person more den wat he/she is on da outside..now its da nature & mental capacity of dat particular person dat determine da real effect of dat appearance..& by dat i mean, If the person is really mature and has a nice nature den da 1st effect dat appearance has on our mind expands and we end up highly admiring dat person... on da other hand if all dat person got is his/her appearance and not a wit to deeply impress me , den dat 1st impression of appearance will wear of and I wud end up counting dat person as an average and nothing particular
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02-07-2008, 04:59 AM
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ok .... yea I agree women do it too ... there r so many gals who go for only look ... its in short based on our priorities and a general concept is ki gals need to be prettier than their partner :)
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02-07-2008, 08:57 AM
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altho myself ... i tend not to go for looks .... looks dont encourage me to go chat some1 up ...
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02-07-2008, 07:52 PM
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 ... Im not very social but wen sum1 is talking to me den im quite friendly..
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02-07-2008, 09:32 PM
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Funnily, this debate came up in one of our gatherings of friends a couple of days back and another view to it was brought up that in a relationship one partner should be better looking than the other so that in the relationship one is felt appreciaTED, and the other appreciaTIVE, compared to relationships in which they are equal in looks because in very good couples vanity is always a problem, and average looking couples theres always the danger of the other partner looking elsewhere. Wats you guys take on that?
__________________ You're gonna be a shining star, fancy clothes, fancy car-ars and then you'll see, you're gonna go far cos every1 knows, who you are-are so live your life (ay ay ay) instead of chasing that paper just live your life (oh! ay ay ay) ain't got no time for no haterz....... |
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03-07-2008, 01:01 AM
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| Asslam in my opeion it does'nt matter that woman or man are heavy then there is a problam in another life only matter is concerned that understanding have equal in marriage life without understanding relationshiop does take longer lyfe agar riste m understanding nhe hogy tu woh ziyada nhe chalta is se kuch faraq nhe padhta h k ek ktna hassen h tu dosra us k muqable m kam Rista wahen chalta h jahan understanding ho aur carring ho ek dosre ko smjhney ki qabiliyat ho without understanding khoubsurat logon k bhi ristey katam hojatey hain Regards Arisha share more view soon
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03-07-2008, 01:53 AM
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about not being social .... no comment ...
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03-07-2008, 02:04 AM
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does this mean the good looking one can always look down on the ugly one? ... does mean that the good looking one is better? .... agreeing to something like this ... is just simply saying .." oh u know what i am prettier so appreciate me for taking u ... appreciate me for being in your life " i mean what woman would consider her man to be ugly and yet be truly faithful/fair to him (knowing that shes goodlooking) ... what man would be faithful/fair to her woman (knowing that hes goodlooking) i know what happens out there ... and i know what shud happen out there... u can never be in a team thinking ur better than ur team .. or worse than them .... u appreciate each other for who u are .... not really what u look like ... if u truly love some1 .. u wudnt say they are the prettiest in the world ... but u say they are the prettiest to u in the world ... thats who u make it work ... society has different views ... larki ki umer zyada nahin honi chahye larkay se .... larka bhalay uncle ho shaadi kay waqt .... larki overweight nahin honi chahye ... larki ko gher ka kaam aana chahye .. bhalay larkay ko anda fry kerna na aata ho .. larki khoobsurat honi chahye bhalay larka na ho ... society is usually wrong ! final word tell me this ... would u want to be with some1 .. who thinks they are better looking than u and make u appreciate them ??? (it can get to their head and will reflect in everyday life) if u cant be the ugly one in the relationship .. do u think anybody else would want to be the ugly one .. and u the pretty one ps. average looking couples dont have that danger .. there is danger where one searches for something more than the partner can offer ... eg. one partner thinking the other is ugly and not being satisfied??? ... no offence intended anywhere ...
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03-07-2008, 04:47 AM
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Preferences not only count at the "person attracted" end but the other end too. so if not attracted for beauty as such, won't like anyone else being attracted towards him/her only for tht reason. As far as the other thing u mentioned is concern, I don’t agree … I mean this could be the case if the 2 or any one of 2 were attracted for physical appearance … while appreciate and being appreciated is something which applies on every REASON of attraction b/w 2 and it’s a key to firm n long lasting relationship but the SUBJECT of appreciation won’t be appearance if two were attracted for say, good mental compatibility or so on. Again not agree with the later part … if someone is beauty lover, then he/she might look else where even having prettier partner …. In search of prettiest …. In search of Change … so its not dependent on that but depends upon the commitment, concern and love what one has for his/her partner.
__________________ ........................................ little changes bring the BIG ones ... so let's get changed right from the individual level to change the whole picture Verbal Impression lasts longer n matters more than Visual Impression so be thoughtful about it ...........AQUARIAN........... |
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03-07-2008, 06:00 AM
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| One of so many scenarios … There are few cases, though % is low, that ppl (gals with higher rates) have this kind apsychology that if they will go for some lesser one ... (regarding any aspect but since its all abt physical appearance tu focus on that) then, they will be happier since the other partner will have some inferiority complex thing or too attracted to not think about anything or anyone else … you can call such ppl, selfish … self-admirer or so.
__________________ ........................................ little changes bring the BIG ones ... so let's get changed right from the individual level to change the whole picture Verbal Impression lasts longer n matters more than Visual Impression so be thoughtful about it ...........AQUARIAN........... |
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03-07-2008, 06:08 AM
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__________________ ........................................ little changes bring the BIG ones ... so let's get changed right from the individual level to change the whole picture Verbal Impression lasts longer n matters more than Visual Impression so be thoughtful about it ...........AQUARIAN........... |
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03-07-2008, 06:21 AM
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| rahi baat approach of the society ki tu kia kiya jasakta hey :)) ... as they say "ladka bas achcha kamata ho ... baqi shakal ya umar kon dekhta hey" ..... Apart from joke ... I guess women infuse this kinda thought to their sons and daughters ... so gal accepts this in the back of her mind once she's supposed to be PRESENTED even if she tries to say something about her preferences and so. and the worse impact which this infusion left on men's mind, they take their wives for granted most of the time ... it's ridiculous when men think there's no self-respect of women (wives) ... no wish to be admired or acknowledged .... no school of thought towards things ... or they (wives) are not the ones to discuss intelectual or work/business talk ... and things like tht which is more common in average of this society. (though scenario has been lil better by the time)
__________________ ........................................ little changes bring the BIG ones ... so let's get changed right from the individual level to change the whole picture Verbal Impression lasts longer n matters more than Visual Impression so be thoughtful about it ...........AQUARIAN........... |
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03-07-2008, 01:58 PM
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| Good comments AQN
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