[AQN]

Assalam-o-Alikum …

Let’s share how you deal ups and downs of your life … your Success and Failure.

Do you have some philosophy regarding this … especially to sooth you down when you feel a little down? Any rule which help you out … any suggestion to desperate people!!!

How you cherish and tackle yourself in pleasing and unfavorable moments respectively?

I hope few people with come up with either their problem in managing themselves in such scenario or their suggestions to others.

Good time is easy to deal but bad time seems not an easy cake for all.

am I right!!

[freeek]

walaikum assalam,
yups you are very right.. well, the case with me is that i become so afraid of the problems... m not ever afraid of the results, whatever they may be, I never cared much about 'em.. but to face the problem is 'my problem' after-wards I am happy with whatever I get.. whether I failed or succeeded.. nevertheless I bother them.. but my centre of attention is always the problem...
we must just put one thing in mind that we arent the sovereigns of this universe... we are humans... we have bad traits as well as good n if we can win then y can't we suffer... the point is that we should take every condition as a temporary phase n always hope for the best !! It'll help us to such great extent.. n in the end.. we must always be smiling... it doesnt cost even a penny but pays much !!

[AQN]

@ freeek ...

well you know it's not very unusual feeling what you just said "Your problem" ... I will explain it this way that we all (mostly) are more afraid of bad things to be happened as compare to when we actually facing that ...
like see can anyone think of losing any loved ones!! it just chilled our nerves and we think we can't bear to lose them ... but what when people lost them .... they bear it and eventually get back to normal thing after a span of time ...

So it's all natural ... ALLAH blessed us the strength to bear all these ... and as HE says that I don't give the pain to you what you can't bear.

This is what I truely implement on myself (at least try my best) and it works and helps me in accepting the fact and facing the problems.

You're very ture what you said in the message lately .... Hope ... Positivity ... Trust ... Belief ... all these are keys which unlock and free us from all our desperation, uncertainity ... disappointment ... losing trust in ourselves and others and so on.

[DIYA_786]

I personally think in both cases success and failure you shouldn't forget who you are and remain level-headed, because too much success can get to your head and make you forget those close to you, aur jitni jladi ati hai utni hi jaldi it can be taken away from you and in cases of failure, dont get too down, try, try and try again, and one day you'll reap the fruits you sow.

[Zubair]

Yar According to me its necesary k success k sath sath faliure ka maza bhi aana chahye,In My Experince i icreases my percentages from 9th till 11th(57%, 60.%, 71.11% Respectively) and then a big clash in 2nd Year 58% ( Total 62.0% ) So dis courgeing at that time,
but now i thing that was better for to face some faliure.

[AQN]

Originally Posted by DIYA_786

I personally think in both cases success and failure you shouldn't forget who you are and remain level-headed, because too much success can get to your head and make you forget those close to you, aur jitni jladi ati hai utni hi jaldi it can be taken away from you and in cases of failure, dont get too down, try, try and try again, and one day you'll reap the fruits you sow.

exactly ... and agar sucess long lasting ho tab bhi we should not leave our base and keep reminding us that how we achieved it and now how to sustain it.

[AQN]

Originally Posted by Zubair

Yar According to me its necesary k success k sath sath faliure ka maza bhi aana chahye,In My Experince i icreases my percentages from 9th till 11th(57%, 60.%, 71.11% Respectively) and then a big clash in 2nd Year 58% ( Total 62.0% ) So dis courgeing at that time,
but now i thing that was better for to face some faliure.

yeh bhi sahi hey ... jab tak hum nakamyoo'n ka munh nahi dekhtey kamyaabi ki qadr-o-qeemat sahi tareeqay sey maaloom nahi hoti ... plus wohi baat ki aap ney agar hamesha kaamyaabi dekhi and once you got fail in acieving your target, then how you it it ... A speed breaker which then accelerates your move or just and stopping point.

[HULK]

Neither failure nor success is eternal or immortal.
infact, if a failure comes after repeated full energy efforts have put in, i consider that failure as success, because it may seem apparently that one has failed in one aspect, but by endeavouring continuously he has achieved another aspect.....so it isnt complete failure.


the point is, i would like to believe that we should put our full efforts and leave the result to ALLAH SWT and He will decide what is best for us :)

[AQN]

Rite ... thats what I do .... I never lose my hope if am trying harder and harder but not getting what I wish to ... though ALHAMDOLILAH didn't faced something like that so far ... but in general i accept things so quickly because everything happens to us must have some reason.

Plus for me the important thing is How much I put my EFFORT into it ... if am satisfied with my performance then no worries i fail or succeed ... and if not much effort, then of course I can't blame anything/anyone else for it.

I guess have written so many topics on this as well ... efforts Never die .... knowledge or Degree ... bla bla :)

[HULK]

that is right sister.......if only moe of our fellow muslims have this kind of belief, nothing in the world can scare them.......

the only thing that scares me of dying is, dying without performing hajj umrah and being able to help others.......i only fear to die because i havent performed these things.....otherwise death itself is a pleasure for me to be with my ALLAH SWT again.....but in order to be so, i need to do as He told us all......

May Allah SWT accept my dua of being able to perform hajj and umrah and after that, I can die a happy man:)

[AQN]

Aameen Summa Aameen ... INSHALLAH ALLAH will call you soon at His Home.

:) and my approach is almost same but bit general ... I always pray that I die once my good deeds are more than my bad in terms of my duites being a Muslim ...

otherwise never scared to die ANYTIME ... pray for me as well and all Mulims (which u must do) that I would do maximum of what I am created for.

ALLAH hum sab ko hidayat dey aur apney nafs aur dunyawi khawhisho'n sey ladney ki taaqat ataa fermaey ... Aameen Summa Aameen

[HULK]

Ameen for you sister.
actually the basic aim is same. you want to have more good deeds and i want to perform hajj so that the number of bad deeds i have in my amal nama, could be forgiven by ALLAH SWT.:)

let us pray that not only us, but all the muslims can obtain this opportunity to perform good deeds and perform hajj, ameen sum ameen.

[AQN]

Aameen Summa Aameen .... ALLAH HAMARI IN DUAOO"N KO ZAROOR QABOOL FARMAEY ... AAMEEN SUMMA AAMEEN...

yeah thats why I said "my appraoch is same but little GENERAL :)