[Rapunzel]

AsalamOAlikum ....!

well i wanna knw abt One thing nwadayz dat thing is common u can say trend .. k shadiii k 5,4,3 or 2 saal phely nikah ker diaa jata haii ... jiss say hotaa yeh haii phely hee couples main misunderstandingz ho jatii hain aur baat talak taak pohanch jatii haii ... yehh aj kaal 80% cases main esa hee ho reha haii .... ajj kaal yeh nikaah kiun ker dety hain sedhaa rukhsati hee kiun naye ker dety ... ta k yeh masala hee haal ho jayee ..! wat do u think abt it?

Allah Hafiz...!

[Kool Guy]

welll shayad is liye .. k kisi ek side say force kia jarah ahoo k shadi kerdi jaye .... rukhsati bad may hoti rahaygi... koi yeh sochta hoo k engagement k baad ... agar shadi na keri long time tak to kahin rishta na khatam hojaye etc...

[umair_pak]

aik side walay shadi k leay jaldi kartay hain tou aisay nikah kia jata hai

[Khu$h!]

nikkah is a marriage contract. Which means - after signing a nikkah nama you are married. Which means living together, going out to the movies,. Its all halaal because you're now bound to the person.

Furthermore this whole rukhsati concept totally goes against the Islamic nikkah concept - Islamically, once you get a nikkah done, you gotta consummate the marriage within a certain time span (its like 3 or 6 or something months), otherwise, the nikkah is considered invalid....after nikah is performed marriage is in place, basically you r husband and wife end of subject. de uncalled for acts that is mayun, mehndi, mangani, rukhsati, barat etc r all culturally influenced and not required basically but kaun samjaey logon ko. ....

[Rapunzel]

well said dear ... bt basicaly i m trying 2 ask 4rm u ppl .. k ajj kaal nikah aur Rukhsatii main ju duration a arehaa haii iss ka buhat Nuksaan naye ho rehaa ....!!

[qayym]

good thread........................ but discussion is very slow............. memebrs to plz write down few words on dis as it happened every where.
m agreed wid Kool Guy

[Khu$h!]

Originally Posted by Rapunzel

well said dear ... bt basicaly i m trying 2 ask 4rm u ppl .. k ajj kaal nikah aur Rukhsatii main ju duration a arehaa haii iss ka buhat Nuksaan naye ho rehaa ....!!

fashion ban gya hai...it's all to be able to have lots of parties...and sometimez in the long run, there is a break up...will share more but not now...dont have tym...:)

[Khu$h!]

Originally Posted by qayym

good thread........................ but discussion is very slow............. memebrs to plz write down few words on dis as it happened every where.
m agreed wid Kool Guy

why dont u spread some light on this....

[La Ha$!L]

hmmmmmm cant say anything.
I personally think shadi and rukhsty same time par honi chhaiye.. warna bahtar hai nikah hi mat karen..aur jab ruksty ho sakty hai aik bar tabhi shadi karen.

[Desert_ Rules]

arreee sab apni apni bole ja rahe hain .. wo tu bataoo ... nikah kr kion dya jata hai :)

1) thora pehle se nikah is lie kr dya jata hai jab, larka aur larki apas main razi na hon foran se shadi ke, tu families nikah krwa deti hain.. ta'ke understanding ho jaye aur dhom dham se shadi ya rukhsati ho jaye :-)

2) phone pe nikah bhi tu hota hai, jab larka aur larki aik jaga nahi hote, reason visa processes ki hoti hai :D (i think)

ab in upper die gaye points per roshni daliye... ehe!

[Mishkat]

pooch kar bata ta hooonn

[Mishkat]

har kisi kay sath different problems hoti hai....koi 1 general problem nahi hai is ki

[La Ha$!L]

Originally Posted by Desert_ Rules

arreee sab apni apni bole ja rahe hain .. wo tu bataoo ... nikah kr kion dya jata hai :)

1) thora pehle se nikah is lie kr dya jata hai jab, larka aur larki apas main razi na hon foran se shadi ke, tu families nikah krwa deti hain.. ta'ke understanding ho jaye aur dhom dham se shadi ya rukhsati ho jaye :-)

2) phone pe nikah bhi tu hota hai, jab larka aur larki aik jaga nahi hote, reason visa processes ki hoti hai :D (i think)

ab in upper die gaye points per roshni daliye... ehe!

mere bhai ... nikah ho chuka ho phir kahan ki gunjaish k understanding ho jai tau rukhsty ho jaigi.... shadi tau ho gai.. ab talak karwain gay kya bilfarz understanding an hoi tau? nai na lolz... agar understanding ka hi wait karna ho tau engagement is more than enough..

i dont think phone par nikah jaiz hai... islami ro se... we need molvi here wese hadiqa kyani ka nikah bi phone par hi howa tha..

[La Ha$!L]

Originally Posted by Mishkat

har kisi kay sath different problems hoti hai....koi 1 general problem nahi hai is ki

I agree with U
Mujahy ye tau nai pata nikah k achay asraat hotay hain ya BUray.. itna andaza hai k kisi na ksii rukawat k bais rukhsty nai karte..sometimes larki parh rahy hoty hai.. kabhi larkay ki job nai hoty..etc..

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